Swanil Choksi sent us this labour of love from her younger sister- a letter for her birthday, with all the advice she had dispensed to her younger sibling in years past.
I haven’t exactly been terribly affectionate all these years, but you know I mean well and like Khyati rightfully said, thank god, there’s someone other than us on the receiving end of your wet kisses. You have no idea what a relief it is!
On this birthday, I will remind you about all the things you told me. Perhaps, that led me to do a lot of things I would not have had the courage to do. I mean, I still went on even after being mugged and attacked, that must have been some good advice right 🙂
Firstly, like you told me, there is no “what I should be doing right now” concept. So, remember to do exactly what you want. Don’t give into the capitalistic bullies and just enjoy what you’re doing; very few people get the chance to make the choices we have made.
Travel. It teaches you things that no parents, cousins, school or university can teach you. Take your hammock and coffee maker, and just go. Trust me, you will not regret it. Go meet some Indigenos , Aboriginis and Masais and learn from them, what really matters in life.
Go on a “walkabout” like the Aborigini’s would say. May be a month or two before the wedding.
Oh and yes, I forgot, get mugged at least once, that teaches you more than you need to learn haha!
Read. I know you tried to get me to do that for the first few years of school. But yes, when I started I couldn’t stop. It’s the best therapy ever :). Don’t ever give that up, however busy you are.
Be your eccentric self. People who think too much rarely ever land up doing what they really desire, at least that’s the idea I get. There are no norms, and even if they exist, they exist in the minds of those you shouldn’t really bother about. Don’t think too much, and you know your hammock’s always there. You know what you have to do.
Ask questions. I know you find it terribly annoying, but then, you don’t always have a book or Google around. Only when the person responding to your questions is fuming, you stop.
So, well, there you go. I have told you what you already know. But sometimes, you need to be reminded, out loud too. I have always followed your advice, and it hasn’t turned out that badly for me. So, follow your own advice. Trust me, it works.
And lastly, if the advice backfires, which I’m sure it won’t, haha. You know Munish is always there and we’ll be only a phone call away. But in case you get attacked or mugged, sorry, but you are on your own haha!
I hope you truly enjoy your birthday and everything we have planned for you.
Lots of love,